Marc Eric Ely-Chaitlin 1959-2001

 

 

Marc founded the Mildred Rose Memorial Foundation, Inc., FTEC, ULCA, Justice Center, and other non-profit organizations to help those in need. Active in politics all of his life, Marc was a Rights Activist for the homeless and less fortunate in Orange County, having first volunteered at, and later operated, several homeless shelters and soup kitchens in the Orange County area for more than a decade. He was the author of several papers on American/Human Rights, and the recent book "The Constitution Papers". Before his illness Marc donated his paralegal services to help others. His family was with him when he died of respiratory failure on Sunday, April 29, 2001. He was 42, and is survived by his parents, Mel and Shirley Chaitlin of Lake Forest, and his sister, Candace Chaitlin-Gardner, and her husband Rick Gardner, of Aliso Viejo, and Marc’s two "Children", his cats Theo and Abi. Graveside Services were held at Forest Lawn in Glendale on Friday, May 4, 2001.

Below is Marc’s eulogy given by his sister.

Hello, and thank you for coming. Marc would have loved this, having his family and friends together, honoring his memory and celebrating his life. On my last evening with him, I saw very clearly how he had helped mold and shape me into the person I am today. He never took the easy path, and though we often disagreed, I always respected him for never giving up when things got rough, and I admired his capacity for love and generosity and forgiveness. I spent much of my life in awe of him and his limitless knowledge and surprising abilities. Marc honored our ancestors, and all those who came before us to make a better life for the next generation. He recognized the value of every person, but especially our elders and all that they had to impart to us. His was not a wasteful way; all his actions had a purpose, and were rooted in a deep respect for tradition and history. In today’s throwaway society, his ways were refreshing to those of us who understood. Marc wanted to make the world a safer place; he wanted to make sure that everyone was cared for, no matter what their age, race, beliefs, or financial situation may be. He worked all of his life to improve upon the lives of others through his efforts in politics, volunteer work and charity causes. He didn’t just want to make a difference; he needed to, it was his driving force. I am only just realizing how much of a difference and how great an impact his life had on so many of us. Marc would not have wanted us to grieve his passing, but rather we should celebrate his life by following his example; to honor his memory by honoring the divine being in one another, by looking beyond the surface and seeing the heart within those around us. I know he wanted to make his mark in this world, to be remembered as someone who mattered. For me, what he will always be remembered for is what I consider to be his greatest quality, and truly his finest Legacy He had a heart more expansive than all of the universe, and a limitless capacity to Love. It is my belief that if we are to aspire to know God, first we must learn to Love freely and without strings. Surely then, Marc must be sitting in the lap of God right now, being showered with Love and learning all the secrets of the Universe. So Marc, as we say our good byes, and hand you over to God’s loving care, knowing you are at peace, and in the embrace of family and loved ones that went before you, may you also know that our hearts go with you on this your new journey. Wherever you travel, you will never be alone.

 

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn’s rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry:
I am not there. I did not die.

Anonymous

 

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